Abuse of 16-year-old Sex Slave to Court

A 16-year-old girl in Sweden met a 32-year-old guy online, signed a document explaining she wanted to be his slave for him to punish and disgrace however he saw fit. The girl was put in a dog cage, whipped and fastened to the wall by her nipples. Now an attorney is taking the man to court because it is possible that the court will decide that “some violence can never be consensual”.

Ok, so there’s a lot of complicated stuff here. In Sweden euthanasia (killing someone who wants to die), even though it is the free will and sane desire of the person who wants to die. So, legally, it would not be surprising if it was decided that a certain amount of abuse cannot ever have been desired. It is assumed that couples who engage in sadomasochism and similar activities sometimes hurt each other a lot. But they never press charges because that’s how they like it. So, what would happen if they forget to close their curtains one day and someone reports them? Now, legally, not surprising. However, logically, does it make sense?

In this case the girl is said to have a mental problem, a self-harm disorder. She is also 16. My question is: Who decides who knows what they want and who acts against their will? The girl felt bad about what had happened. I’m myself opposed to written rules and line-drawing in this arbitrary world, so all I can offer as a solution is that we stop focusing on whether people are 5844 or 5845 days old and try to be more discerning towards people’s wishes. The 32-year-old must have a responsibility to make sure that the 16-year-old knows what she’s doing and will not regret it later. The 16-year-old must also have a responsibility to make sure the 32-year-old knows what he want. This may sound simplistic but imagine a scenario where both people knew exactly what the other one wanted and wanted to oblige each other’s desires and were able to fulfil them you’d know that both of them would be happy whatever the actions were and how it would seem to an outside observer.

Of course, the main problems are that we a) are not psychic, b) change our minds over time and c) don’t even know what we want ourselves. But, knowing of these problems, we have a chance of learning methods to understand ourselves and each other and then we can be held responsible for applying these methods in all interaction with other beings.

Further reading:  “Operation Spanner was the name of an operation carried out by police in the United Kingdoms’ city of Manchester in 1987, in which a group of homosexuals were convicted of assault for their involvement in consensual sadomasochism over a 10 year period. Attempts at legal reform are ongoing and the convictions are controversial[1][2][3][4] due to issues of whether a government or one’s self is justified to control one’s own body in private situations where the only harm is to consenting adults.” -wikipedia


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