Posts Tagged ‘sex’

Abuse of 16-year-old Sex Slave to Court

June 8, 2010

A 16-year-old girl in Sweden met a 32-year-old guy online, signed a document explaining she wanted to be his slave for him to punish and disgrace however he saw fit. The girl was put in a dog cage, whipped and fastened to the wall by her nipples. Now an attorney is taking the man to court because it is possible that the court will decide that “some violence can never be consensual”.

Ok, so there’s a lot of complicated stuff here. In Sweden euthanasia (killing someone who wants to die), even though it is the free will and sane desire of the person who wants to die. So, legally, it would not be surprising if it was decided that a certain amount of abuse cannot ever have been desired. It is assumed that couples who engage in sadomasochism and similar activities sometimes hurt each other a lot. But they never press charges because that’s how they like it. So, what would happen if they forget to close their curtains one day and someone reports them? Now, legally, not surprising. However, logically, does it make sense?

In this case the girl is said to have a mental problem, a self-harm disorder. She is also 16. My question is: Who decides who knows what they want and who acts against their will? The girl felt bad about what had happened. I’m myself opposed to written rules and line-drawing in this arbitrary world, so all I can offer as a solution is that we stop focusing on whether people are 5844 or 5845 days old and try to be more discerning towards people’s wishes. The 32-year-old must have a responsibility to make sure that the 16-year-old knows what she’s doing and will not regret it later. The 16-year-old must also have a responsibility to make sure the 32-year-old knows what he want. This may sound simplistic but imagine a scenario where both people knew exactly what the other one wanted and wanted to oblige each other’s desires and were able to fulfil them you’d know that both of them would be happy whatever the actions were and how it would seem to an outside observer.

Of course, the main problems are that we a) are not psychic, b) change our minds over time and c) don’t even know what we want ourselves. But, knowing of these problems, we have a chance of learning methods to understand ourselves and each other and then we can be held responsible for applying these methods in all interaction with other beings.

Further reading:  “Operation Spanner was the name of an operation carried out by police in the United Kingdoms’ city of Manchester in 1987, in which a group of homosexuals were convicted of assault for their involvement in consensual sadomasochism over a 10 year period. Attempts at legal reform are ongoing and the convictions are controversial[1][2][3][4] due to issues of whether a government or one’s self is justified to control one’s own body in private situations where the only harm is to consenting adults.” -wikipedia


31 US States have now Banned Gay Marriages

November 5, 2009

Today the people of Maine voted against gay marriages by a narrow 53 percent votes for the ban and 47 percent against the ban. So far 31 states have voted on the issue and all 31 have voted for a ban. Five states have allowed gay marriages, but not by a popular referendum.

As a comparison, last month, the Swedish Lutheran Church (the former Swedish state church which still has three quarters of the Swedish population as registered members) voted for allowing gay marriages. Some bishops protested but the majority of church leaders have decided that God does not think homosexuality is immoral. However, in the US, God thinks homosexuality is immoral. So, either there are different Gods with different opinions on the issue or the one and only God needs to employ a new head of PR. However, I won’t discuss whether homosexuality is immoral or not according to God, because I don’t believe in God, so God’s opinion on the matter is irrelevant to me.

People who are against homosexuality but don’t refer to God’s morals usually say that homosexuality is unnatural and therefore wrong; sex is between a man and a woman, the penis fits into the vagina like a hand in a glove (size, shape and odour may differ, which is true for hands and gloves as well). This is not a good argument, because humans do a lot of things not just meant to further their genes; like going to the movies, chewing gum, masturbating, hugging, listening to music et cetera. Having a penis in your mouth or in your ass is no more or less natural whether you’re a girl or a boy. It’s just a matter of recreation, what we do for fun or for pleasure. As long as it’s consensual – as long as nobody gets hurt, no activity is ever wrong. This goes for gay guys, lesbians, bisexuals, group-sex participants et cetera as well as for all activities that have nothing to do with sex.

Thousands of animal species are less homophobic than humans. Like chimpanzees. And don’t get me started on plant reproduction.

Also, it doesn’t matter why a person has its sexual preferences, whether it’s genetic or environment, because we all have different taste in wine, music, sex partners, television shows, seasons, wall papers et cetera. It’s just the way it is and there is no judge as to what is right or wrong when it comes to taste, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else. (Having a taste for genocide is probably a very bad thing…)